Suppressing Anger and Loving Without Giving Up on People
“Love is patient, love is kind… it keeps no record of wrongs.” 1 Corinthians 13:4–5
I used to think that I was a patient person.
Even when I was angry, I controlled my words, facial expressions, and actions. I remained calm and acted as if nothing was wrong. So I thought:
“I did not become angry. I was patient.”
“I controlled myself because I cared about the other person.”
However, when I examined my heart before the Lord, I realized that this was not the true patience described in the Bible.
I remained silent, but I kept a record of the other person’s wrongs in my heart. My discomfort and resentment did not disappear. I merely held back the words that had risen to my lips.
When something similar happened again, all the anger I had stored inside suddenly came out.
“Do you know how much I have endured because of you?”
“You have always been like this.”
Looking back, these words were not evidence of patience. I had recorded the person’s wrongs in my heart and then used them all at once to attack that person.
I was not truly patient. I was hiding my anger while pretending to be gentle.
If We Remain Silent, Does It Mean We Are Patient?
It is necessary to control our words and actions instead of pouring out our anger. This can be the beginning of patience.
However, remaining silent does not mean that our hearts are patient. If we continue to judge and resent someone in our hearts, we have only controlled our outward behavior.
The Bible says that love “keeps no record of wrongs.”
Love does not keep a record of another person’s wrongs in the heart.
Of course, remembering a wrong is not always sinful. We may need to be careful so that the same harm does not happen again. Sometimes we must clearly address the wrong or keep an appropriate distance.
However, if we repeatedly bring up past wrongs and use them as weapons to condemn and attack someone, we have not forgiven that person in our hearts.
Love does not pretend that nothing wrong happened, but neither does it use the wrong to hurt the person again.
Patience Without Resentment
Patience without resentment does not mean that the other person has done nothing wrong. The wrong may be real, but we do not need to suppress hatred or a desire for revenge because these things are no longer ruling our hearts.
We should correct wrong behavior with love. However, we should not hate the person, repay evil with evil, or judge that person’s entire future by their present condition.
Think of a child who repeatedly makes the same mistake. Loving parents correct the child, but they do not say:
“You will never change.”
“I am giving up on you.”
They give the child another opportunity and wait for the child to grow. They do not blindly trust the child’s present behavior. They believe that the child can change in the future.
Spiritual patience is the same. We do not easily give up on people because we believe that God can change them.
Jesus said: “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy times seven.” Matthew 18:22
This does not mean that we must accept every wrong without correction. We should correct what is wrong, but we should not hate or easily give up on the person who did it.
True patience is not forcing ourselves to suppress anger. It is refusing to keep a record of someone’s wrongs and lovingly waiting because we believe that the person can change through God. We wait because we believe, and we do not give up because we love.
Today’s Reflection
Have I believed that I was patient simply because I did not express my anger?
Whose wrongs am I still keeping in the record book of my heart?
Instead of giving up on that person today, let us pray and believe that God can bring change.
Agar Kisi Bhi Insan se Galti Ho Jaati Hai To Hamen use Pyar Se Samjhana chahie na dantna chahie na Krodh karna chahie aur na Apne man mein uske liye gussa Rakhna chahie Upar Se Samjhana aur Andar Se Krodh Rakhna yah Prabhu Ka Prem Nahin Hai Hamen Man Mein Kisi Ke Liye bhi gussa Nahin Rakhna chahie Hamen Sabko Maaf Karna Aana chahie Chahe Koi Hamare Sath Kaisa bhi vyavhar Karen pahle Kuchh baten mere man mein bhi bahut taklif pahunchati Thi Kuchh log Agar mujhe kuchh bol dete the Yahan badtamiji Karte The Yahan Mujhe Chhota dikhate the To Mere Man Ko Bahut Dukh Hota tha Aur Main sochati rahti thi Lekin Magar ab Maine Prabhu ka saccha Prem jana hai na Hamen Dukhi Hona chahie Naman Mein Kisi Ki Baton ko Rakhna chahie aur Na Kisi Ke Liye man mein Krodh Rakhna chahie Hamen Sab Ko kshma karna Aana chahie aur unke liye Prathna Karni chahie Prabhu Ka Prem Hamen sikhata hai ki Hamesha se Prem karna chahie
जय मसीह अब तक हमारे अंदर कोई धैर्य नहीं था बाहर का हो या घर का यदि वह कोई गलती कर देते थे हम उनसे बहुत ही जल्द गुस्सा हो जाती थी पर आज के वचन के द्वारा जो परमेश्वर ने हमें दिया उससे मैं समझ पाई यदि कोई कुछ गलती करता है उससे हमें गुस्सा और नफरत नहीं करना बल्कि धैर्य रखना है और प्रेम करना है दूसरों से बताने के बजाएं हमें उस के लिए परमेश्वर प्रार्थना करनी है आमीन
जय मसीह अब तक हमारे अंदर कोई धैर्य नहीं था बाहर का हो या घर का यदि वह कोई गलती कर देते थे हम उनसे बहुत ही जल्द गुस्सा हो जाती थी पर आज के वचन के द्वारा जो परमेश्वर ने हमें दिया उससे मैं समझ पाई यदि कोई कुछ गलती करता है उससे हमें गुस्सा और नफरत नहीं करना बल्कि धैर्य रखना है और प्रेम करना है दूसरों से बताने के बजाएं हमें उस के लिए परमेश्वर प्रार्थना करनी है आमीन
I used to think the same before when I was a small child just learning about the world that being patient means being quiet and waiting for my turn but later I learned that there is so much more to being patient which I learned from my parents, my family and through this message. Being patient isn’t just stating that you are patient by waiting for a while. It reflects trusting in God’s perfect timing and showing the same long suffering and grace toward others that God shows toward humanity. We shouldn’t keep the anger and hatred in our hearts in the name of being patient. Instead we should forgive and show love and kindness and give people a chance to grow from their mistakes. Everything goes according to God’s will.
Thank you lord..aaj ke vachan se maine bhi mere andar ke gusse ko jana main bhi kabhi kabhi aisa hi karti hu bahari Roop se to main kuch nahi bolti hu but mere hriday me bahut gussa rahta hai yahan tak ki chahre par najar ata hai..but abse mujhe gussa karne se pahle logo ko samjhna hai ke sachme unki galti hai ya phir meri galti hai qki hum humesha dusro ki galti ko dekhte hai but ye nahi sochte hai ke us vyakti ne aisa kyun kia hume logo ko maaf karna h aur unse prem karne hai qki humare prabhu yeshu Masih ka hirday bhi prem aur Bhalayi se bhara hua hai vo hume humesha maaf karte hai…waise main humesha prabhu se prarthana karti hu ke main mere hirday ki baruiyon ko door kar paun..abhi bhi mere hirday me kuch logo ke prati gussa hai jab bhi main un logo ke bare me sochti hu to mann karta hai me main unse bat hi na karu ..but phir pavitra aantam mujhe prabhu ke vachan ko yad dilata hai ke mujhe unse prem karna hai nafrat nahi isliye main koshish kar rhi hu ke sabse prem kar paun.. Thank you pastor ji itne sundar vachan k liye, please pray for me..taki main jaldi hi prabhu ke jaise hirday ko prapt kar paun..❤️❤️❤️
Hme sab baato me sheey rakhna hai aur apne hirday me krodh ko kabhi nhi panpa nhi hena hai
This message is all about the Patience. And through this message I got to know about the true meaning of Patience.
Today this message made me realised that yes, I used to get angery. When somebody used to day something which I didn’t like then I used to show anger or get angery. And sometimes I didn’t show anger but there was anger inside my heart and today I got know that if we’re are showing anger but still we don’t like the second person becoz of something and we think that, we have Patience becoz, we didn’t show anger or didn’t say anything. So here, we are wrong becoz, true meaning of Patience is not about to not showing anger, it’s about to love others n don’t get angery and don’t hate anybody.
Thank you Lord for this blessed message
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Amen
Sameeksha Singh from Delhi ✨
Praise the Lord everyone
Maine aaj ke Sandesh se Sikha ki Dhairya kya hai pahle mujhe lagta tha ki chup Rahana aur sab Kuchh Sah Lena Dhairya ka Pratik hai bal ki asa nahi hai Ham Samne wale vyakti ko Maaf Nahin Karte bus uski sari baten Apne andar rakhte hain aur jab Hamen gussa Aata Hai To Ham sari Baton ko bol Dete Hain
Par aaj ke Sandesh se Humne Sikha ki asali Dhairya kya hai
Agar Ham asali Mein dhairyawan Hai To Ham dusron se Prem Karenge aur Unki galtiyon Ko Yad Nahin Rakhenge aur unhen Maaf Karenge
Amen ……
Main is wachan ko samajh chuki hu.
Par main kuch likh nhi pa Rahi hu . Kyuki khuda janta hai ki mene Aaj kuch esa Kiya jo mujhe nhi karna chahiye tha .
Pata nhi kya likhna chahiye
Bas prayer kar rahi hu .
Praise the Lord this message is beautiful.
We should not show the anger and love the people. Sometimes we don’t show anger but, if we keep things in our hearts that’s not good. As Jesus loved everybody we also have to love everyone. We have to forgive others and understand them.
Amen
Praise the lord pastor ji 🙏
Aaj ka sandesh bohot acha hai, or ye hmare jeevan se sambandhit bhi hai, hme keval bahr se acha dikhawa nhi Krna hai, hme pita parmeshwar ki bato ko plan Krna hai, hme Kisi pr gussa nhi Krna chahiye or hme sbse phle hmare mn ki janch karni chahiye ki hm dusre vekti ke bare me kya sochte hai, dusre vekti ne aapko kuch glt kaha ya fir bola ho to hme use btana chahiye ki aap glt hai aapko ye sb nhi khna chahiye. Kehte wakt hme apne shabdo pr dhyan dena chahiye agr hm use us wakt nhi bolenge to ye sari bate hmare andr rh jayegi or isse ek din ve sari bate ek bar me bahr aajayegi or us wakt hme hmare shabdo ka dyan nhi hoga or hm apne sbdoka glt upyog krenge ye sari chize n hone ke liye hme khud pr niyantran Krna jruri hai jeevan sbse mahatw purn bat sikha ne ke liye aapka bohot bohot dhyanwad pastor ji ❤️
Jay Masih ki pastor ji Aaj Maine is Vachan se Sikha hai ki Humne Dhairya Rakhna hai parantu Hamare Hriday Mein Gussa Hai iska matlab yah Nahin Hai ki Ham Badal Gaye Hamen Vachan ke dwara badalna hai aur एक-एक Karke Hamare Hriday Mein gussa nikal kar fenkana hai chai Samne wala vyakti Hamare Upar gussa Karen to Hamen usko Samjhana hai parantu Uske pahle Hamen Khud Ko badalna Hai Aur 7 se 70 Guna kshma karna hai dhanyvad aj ke sandesh ke liy😊
धन्यवाद पिता परमेश्वर आज के संदेश से मैं समझ पाई जब हम कोई काम सोचती थी कि मैं अच्छे से कर रही हूं चुपचाप शांत मुझे ऐसा लगता था कि मैं बहुत अच्छे से समझ रखती हूं फिर मैं अपनी हृदय की जांच की तो तब मुझे एहसास हुआ कि हमें अपने आप को बदलना है हमें हर वक्त सावधान हो कर रहना चाहिए दोबारा नुकसान न होने बाइबल बताती है प्रेम गलतियों का हिसाब नहीं रखता हमें गलती को अपने प्रेम के व्यवहार से सुधार लाना चाहिए हमें बुराई के बदले बुराई नहीं करना चाहिए मुझे आज के संदेश से एक दूसरे के प्रति हमें हार नहीं मानना है विश्वास करते हैं परमेश्वर उसे व्यक्ति को भी बदल सकते हैं हमें अपने शब्दों पर निरंतर रखना है यही धर्म की शुरुआत हो सकती है
This post is truly heart-touching. Reading Patience in Our Relationships – Biblical Patience 1 made me realize the profound difference between merely staying quiet on the outside and having true spiritual patience.
My own experience was that I always thought remaining silent during anger was patience. But inside, I kept holding onto bitterness and keeping a record of wrongs, which would eventually burst out later over something else. When I reflected on the immense love and patience Jesus Christ has toward us, I realized how merciful and longsuffering He is. I deeply desire to become like Him, to walk in the spirit, and to take on the mind and attitude of Christ.
My heart’s longing is to transform into Jesus’ likeness so that I may dwell with the Trinity God in the New Jerusalem forever—a place of unending love, joy, peace, and eternal enjoyment. Thank you so much for sharing this inspiring and eye-opening message!
mene mbstudy se sikha ki kabhi kabhi hamre ander itna krodh hota hai ki use ham bahar nahi laa sakte ham us krodh ko ander hi ander daba k rakhte hai jab hame gussa aaye to ham apne haday ko prabhu k samne rakhe or prathan kare prabhu hamre jivan ko badale or hamre gusse ko dur kar sake hame apne vyvhar ko badalna hai or ham kisi se bhi buray ka badla buray se nahi le sakte ham parmeswar k dwara hamre jivan ko badal na hai hame visvash karna hai or hamre jivan ko badal na hai hamre ander Prem nahi rehta to ham kisi se bhi Prem nahi rakh paayege parntu krodh hii rahega is liye hame krodh ko dur karna hai Amen
Thank you for the beautiful message…
Thinking of how Jesus loved everyone and stayed with them till the end, gives me hope and strength…
Jesus knew people will deceive him, judas will deceive him but he tried his very best till the end…
In 2026, my goal is also to broaden my heart more with Holy Spirit’s help and save so many souls without thinking whether they deceive me or not just like the Lord and I know 100% my rewards in Heaven are so much higher and bigger and my God will call my name in front of all people to show his love and kindness for me…
It is such a great blessing when people suddenly change and start to say wrong things because thats how we are clearly seen as true disciples of the Lord and receive so many rewards from God not only in Heaven but also on this earth…
Surely, God is good all the time, All the time He is good…
Thank you dear Heavenly Father and My Saviour Lord Jesus Christ for continually blessing and holding us…
We are nothing without you and saving souls is also not for anyone else’s happiness or sake but only yours….
Praise the lord everyone 🙏
It’s very amazing Verse because it tells us that remaining silent is not patience…Patience means forgiving others instead of recording other’s persons wrongs in my heart.
From today onwards, I will try to forgive other’s.. And pray to god (Jesus) that help me to control my anger and the habit to taking revenge. Amen 🙏
From – Himani Arya