How can you say you love the God you cannot see, if you do not love the spouse you can see?

love god and love your spouse

Some people say, “I want to remain unmarried and live only for Jesus.” The Bible speaks about the single life in this way:

“The unmarried man is anxious about the things of the Lord, how to please the Lord; but the married man is anxious about worldly things, how to please his wife, and his interests are divided.” (1 Corinthians 7:32–34)

Singleness is precious because it allows a person to focus on the Lord without a divided heart. The decision to serve the Lord with undivided devotion is truly valuable.

However, if we are already married, we must remember another truth. The Bible says that marriage divides our attention, because we must care for our spouse and our family. Marriage brings responsibility. Sometimes that responsibility feels heavy. When conflicts arise, some people easily say, “Let’s get divorced.” But those words are not small. They shake the very foundation of the family.

The Bible also says:

“Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” (1 Corinthians 7:5)

Marriage is not a relationship meant to be easily separated. Even if a husband and wife live in the same house, they are not one if their hearts are divided. The “inner room” the Bible speaks of is not merely a physical space, but the deep place of the heart. If their hearts move in different directions, they are already distant.

When the word “divorce” is spoken lightly, trust begins to break. The wounds remain with the spouse, with the children, and with the entire family. When someone is treated as a person who might leave at any time, the relationship becomes weak and unstable.

So we must ask ourselves: Do I truly love my spouse? Am I making an effort to restore my family? Family restoration does not begin by changing the other person. It begins when I change first. Peace does not come by declaration. It begins when I change.

Love must be built on trust. It is not a feeling that changes with circumstances, but a commitment chosen without conditions. The Bible says:

“If anyone says, ‘I love God,’ and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen cannot love God whom he has not seen.” (1 John 4:20)

If we cannot love the spouse we see, we cannot claim to love the God we do not see. The family is the place where we practice love. It is where we live out the love of Jesus in daily life. Before serving in the church, we must practice love in our home.

When a family is restored, that family becomes a small heaven. When a husband and wife choose to remain together in the Lord and become one in love, God works in the midst of that family. For those who are married, the prayer topic is clear: to build a family united in love.

Whether married or single, our mission is the same: to keep Christ at the center and to be faithful in the place entrusted to us. Practice love. Choose forgiveness. Reach out first. When we change, the family changes; and when the family changes, the kingdom of God begins within it.

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8 thoughts on “How can you say you love the God you cannot see, if you do not love the spouse you can see?”

  1. Molhu Kumar 101

    सभी भाई बहनों को जय मसीह की ❤️✝️🙏
    प्रिय भाई बहनों यह वचन पढ़ कर मुझे अपनी बचपन की बातें याद आती है ।कि हम भाई बहन अपने घरों में हम छोटे थे तो एक साथ में पले और बड़े हुए ।और बड़े होने के बाद एक दूसरे से नफरत करने लगते हैं ऐसा हम लोगों को नहीं करना चाहिए । एक दूसरे से प्रेम करना चाहिए जब तक परमेश्वर इस धरती पर जीवन दिए हैं। ऐसे ही प्रेम अपने पड़ोसियों के साथ में होना चाहिए और ना तेरे रिश्तेदार के साथ में भी होना चाहिए। पिता परमेश्वर का धन्यवाद करता हूं । पिता परमेश्वर से अनुग्रह हमने प्राप्त किया कि ऐसा प्रेम दोबारा हमको मिला। सभी प्रिय भाई बहनों को जय मसीह की मनमिन चर्च को दिल से धन्यवाद करता हूं ❤️🙌🙌🙌

  2. Sunita Seth

    सच में ऐसे वचन को जब हम नहीं जानते थे तब यही चाहते थे कि पहले दूसरे बदल जाए लेकिन अब बाइबल के वचन में पति और पत्नी के बारे में जब जाने तो समझ पाए कि जब तक हम अपने आस पास के लोग को न समझे उनसे प्रेम न करे तो हम नहीं कह सकते कि प्रभु से प्रेम है विवाहिता के लिए प्रार्थना का विषय प्रेम में एकता से भरा परिवार बनाना हमारा मसीह में एक ही उद्देश्य है सौंपे गया कार्य में निष्ठावान रहना प्रेम का अभ्यास करना क्षमा करना जब हम बदलते तो परिवार बदलता है परिवार बदल जाता है तो उसी में परमेश्वर का राज्य स्थापित होता हैं

  3. sabhiko jay masih ki 🙏
    bahot se log yah daava karte hai ki mai parmeshwar se prem karta hu balki wo bhai behan se nafrat karte hai ye sab jhhute hai .jo apane mata pita pati patni se prem karte hai to prabhu enke jiwan me kary karta hai .bahot se log shadi nhi karna chahte par koi avivahit ho ya shadi shuda ho prabhu sabhise prasann hota hai avivahit log prabhume lovelin hote hai svatantra hote hai esiliye wo prabhu me mang hote hai par shadishuda wale logoko patni ki echhaoko pura karna hota hai jimmedari hoti or pariwar ka bojhh lagata hai esi karan wo talak ki baato par aajate hai to bachho par bura prabhav padta hai .par pati patni ka rishta vishwas ka hota hai en donoko alag nhi hona hai ek dusaroko samajhkar prabhume rehkar seva karni chahiye kyoki shaitan unke jiwan me pareshani ko lata hai dono ko dur kar deta hai agar ham ek achha pariwar banate hai to prabhu khush hote hai hamare jiwan me kary karna shuru kar dete hai.hame pahile apne pariwar me hi prem ka abhyas karna hai or kshama ka tabhi ye sabit hota hai ki ham parmeshwar se prem karte hai Amen ❤️

  4. Kusmita Lal singh

    Sabi ko jai masih ki aj ke sandesh se humne sikha h ki kya hum ne ye mehsus kiya h ki hum kitna prem को bathte h sbi me aur kya hum apne bhai se aur apne pati se prem rakhte h jinke sath hum rehte h jab hum apne bhai aur apne pati se prem nhi rakh sakte jinke sath hum rehte h fir hum apne pita parmeshwar se kese prem kar sakte jinko humne dekha hi nhi h pita parmeshwar aapka dhanaywad ho ki hum jan paye h ki hume apne parivar me prem rakhna h pehle hume badlna h na ki dusron ko badlne ke liye bolna h hume apne hirdhaya me santi banaye rakhna h aur sabi prem rakhna h

  5. Sabhiko jay masih ki iss vachan se maine sikha ki kuch log khte hai ki ham shadi nahi karange to yeha parmeshwar ko mahima Dene vala jivan hai par
    koyi-koyi shadi hone ke baad parmeshwar ko bhul jate hai jo avivahit log parmeshwar ko kaise khush karna hai uske bare me sochte hai or Jo shadi shuda hai ko apni patni ko kaise khush karna hai uske bare me sochte hai par hame asanahi karna chaiye par koyi koyi jo parmeshwar me lovelin hote hai shadi ke bad bhi paila stan parmeshwar ko dete hai iss liye parmeshwar in se khush hote hai
    🌹 AMEN🌹

  6. RITIKA SONI 101

    Praise the Lord 🙏

    If we can’t love and make peace with our family members then how we can say we love God, because we live with our family and we can see them physically in front of us but we have not seen God. So if we can’t love our family we can’t say we love God.
    We should practice the love of Jesus Christ in our family. We should keep Jesus Christ in the center of our life. When we start changing by the word of God , the family changes. Then the family becomes a small heaven.God begins to work in the midst of the family.

    Amen 🙏🌈🌻❤✨

  7. आज यह वचन हमें सिखाता है जिस परमेश्वर को हम देख नहीं सकते उसे हम प्रेम कैसे करें ? हम उसे देख नहीं सकते पर हम परमेश्वर को महसूस कर सकते हैं। प्रभु यीशु मसीह प्रार्थना करके, स्तुति करके, महसूस होता है। विवाहित हो या अविवाहित हमारा उद्देश्य प्रभु पिता परमेश्वर से प्रेम करना है जैसे हम अपने पति से, परिवार से, प्रेम करते हैं। अगर हम अपने परिवार से प्रेम नहीं कर पाए तो हम अपने पिता यीशु मसीह से भी प्रेम नहीं कर पाएंगे चाहे हम विवाहित हो या अविवाहित। हमें अपने आप को बदलना है फिर हमारा परिवार अपने आप बदल जाता है। आमीन ✨🙏🏻

  8. Anjali chauhan

    Hello everyone,
    कुछ लोग कहते है मैं शादी नहीं करना चाहती हूँ तो बाइबल अविवाहित लोगो के लिए कहती ये हमेशा याहोवा को खुश करने में मग्न रहते है जबकि विवाहित लोग सांसारिक मोह माया में फस जाते है ।
    लेकिन हम पहले से अविवाहित है तो उस रिश्ते को अच्छे से निभाए । ऐसा ना हो की एक पति पत्नी तलाक की बाते करे । सबसे पहले हम ख़ुद को बदले परिवार वाले भी हमे देखकर बदल जाएँगे ।
    एक बात और अगर हम अपने भाई बहन से प्रेम नहीं करते तो ये कैसे कह सकते है की हम परमेश्वर से प्रेम करते है सबसे पहले हम भाई बहन एक दूसरे से एकजुट होकर रहे ।
    हम विवाहित हो या अविवाहित हम अपने प्रभु को केंद्र में रखें प्रेम का अभ्यास करे क्षमा को चुनें ।
    आमीन 🙏🌈